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One of the important parts of life is learning to deal with criticism. Anyone who has tried to do anything knows that a critique of our efforts is a good thing when we use it to improve ourselves. On the other hand, if we take a critique personally, the result is usually that we end up hurting ourselves by becoming bitter or resentful or discontinuing our efforts.
There are many forms of criticism - grading in school, job advancements or demotions, being picked or not for sports teams are just a few. Of course, we all want our efforts to be loved, but learning to take the criticism and then improve our shortcomings will make us an improved version of ourselves. An important part of writing or any other creative process is receiving reviews or critiques from impartial persons. They help us see how what we do affects them.
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I had a friend who used to say that she needed to expand her neck so she could swallow the judgements that people handed out to her, and I never forgot that metaphor. If I can learn to not just get over what people say about me, but to make myself a better person because of their input - then I am the winner.
According to Wikipedia, From the 1990s, the popular meanings of the word criticism have started to evolve more strongly toward "having an objection", "expressing dissent", "stating a dislike", "wanting to dissociate from something", or "rejecting something" ("If you liked it, you would not be criticizing it"). In the contemporary sense, criticism is often more the expression of an attitude, where the object of criticism may only be vaguely defined." However, try to think of reviews as more of a point of view than someone's dislike and then keep that in mind when you write.
How about you? Are you struggling with a critique that just seems to irk you?